Electro sex

What is estim and what does it feel like?

With estim, a control box sends short pulses of current through an electrode or toy. They stimulate your nerves and make your muscles contract gently, which feels like tingling, throbbing or pulling. No vibrator can copy that sensation. The rhythm of the pulses decides how it feels: slow pulses feel like tapping or squeezing, fast ones like a deep hum from inside. Many boxes have programmes that rise, fall and come in waves, and you or your partner control the strength, the rhythm and the spot.

What does each type of electro sex toy do?

• Estim machines from MyStim the Tension Lover 2 is a compact, rechargeable box, while the Tens Unit 3F Pure Vibes has more options. The Sultry Subs Receivers add extra channels to a wireless MyStim system, and the Lead Wires for Electrodes are spare cables. A box, cables and electrodes from the same brand are the easiest to combine, so have a look at the full MyStim range.
• Estim vibrators MyStim models such as Sizzling Simon and Electric Eric combine vibration with pulses. She.E.O. makes the E-Stim G-Spot Vibrator and the E-Stim Rabbit Vibrator, shaped like a g spot vibrator and a rabbit vibrator.
• Toys to insert the Oh-Thello Oval Plug and the Little John Butt plug are conductive butt plugs, and the Casanova Unisex Dildo works for everyone. The Thin Finn is a dilator for urethral sounding and really for experienced players. If you’re new to this, start with ordinary penis plugs first.
• For the penis the Plunging Pete Corona Strap closes around the head, and the Electro Cock Cage from Hidden Desire is a cage with electro stimulation. To get used to a cage without current first, start with one of the chastity cages.
• For BDSM play Taboom makes the Electro Wand Whip and the Prick Stick Electro Shock Wand. Hidden Desire has an Electro Shock range with a riding crop and a paddle, among others, which give short, sharp prickles. Without current, you’ll find similar toys among the spanking paddles and BDSM whips.

How do you use e-stim safely?

Electro sex needs more care than most other BDSM toys, so stick to these rules:

• Always below the waist current should never go above the waist or run across the heart. Keep the two poles of a channel close together for that reason.
• Not with certain conditions don’t use e-stim with a pacemaker or other implanted device, during pregnancy, or if you have epilepsy or a heart condition. If you’re unsure, check with your GP first.
• Start at zero connect everything while the channel is off and turn it up step by step. Turn the channel back to zero before you move an electrode.
• Healthy skin never place electrodes on cuts, eczema or over piercings.
• Agreements agree on a safe word, never leave the box unattended and don’t use e-stim under the influence.

Why do the electrodes need gel?

Dry skin conducts current poorly, which can make it sting. Always put a gel or water-based lube on the electrodes, such as the Goldfather Lube from MyStim. Silicone lube insulates, so it doesn’t work with e-stim. If it suddenly feels sharper, the contact is drying out: turn the channel to zero and add fresh gel. After use, clean electrodes and toys with a sex toy cleaner or mild soap, and keep the box itself dry.

More toys for sensation, power and surrender are waiting in our BDSM range. If you enjoy control and denial, e-stim also goes well with chastity play.

Frequently asked questions about estim