Prostate dildos

How much should a prostate dildo do for you?

Start with how you want to control your dildo for the prostate, and look at shape and size after that.

• Without a motor You guide a curved probe or plug by hand, so you decide the pressure and rhythm yourself.
• With vibration Take the Rechargeable Curved Probe from CalExotics, for example. The P-spot Tapper Plug also comes with a remote. If vibration matters most to you, compare the prostate vibrators.
• With an app You control the Edge 2 from Lovense with your phone, and a partner can take over too.
• Moving by itself The Eclipse Thrusting Probe from CalExotics moves back and forth on its own.
• In steel The wands from Mr. Steel are hard, smooth and heavy, for firm pressure.
• With electro-stimulation Models from MyStim work with gentle electrical pulses from a separate control box. Read more about this under electro sex.

Do you guide it or leave it in place?

A probe or wand has a long handle, so you set the angle and pressure by hand. A prostate plug, such as the Hither Plug from b-Vibe, is shorter, has a narrow neck and stays in place by itself once inserted. That’s handy if you want your hands free, for example during sex or masturbation. The Renegade models from NS Novelties sit somewhere in between: they’re curved and stay put, but you can also move them by the base.

Finding the spot with a slim model first

If you don’t know yet which thickness suits you, a set with several sizes helps. Start with the slimmest and only move up when that feels good. The slender Silicone Prostate Locator and the Booty Call Petite Probe are also designed to help you find the prostate calmly first.

Which shape hits the prostate best?

• The head The prostate sits towards the belly, a few centimetres inside. A clear curve or bulbous head presses right there, while a straight anal dildo often misses it. Our article where is the male G-spot explains exactly where to look.
• Length and thickness You don’t need a long shaft, because the prostate is close to the entrance. So pay most attention to the thickness.
• Flared base or handle You always need one for anal play, so that nothing can slip inside.
• Material Silicone gives a little, which helps while you’re still finding the right angle. Steel is hard and heavy and gives firm, focused pressure.

How do you use a prostate dildo?

If anal play is new to you, read our article on getting started with anal play first. Take your time, relax and use plenty of anal lube, choosing a water-based one for silicone toys. Insert the dildo slowly with the curve pointing towards your belly. Tilt it rather than push, and stop straight away if it hurts. Wash the toy after use with lukewarm water and mild soap or a sex toy cleaner, and never use it vaginally without cleaning it thoroughly first. If pain, bleeding or problems weeing persist, see your GP.

You’ll find more models for the prostate among the prostate massagers, and every other toy for him in the male sex toys range.

Frequently asked questions about prostate dildos