Sex pillows

Which sex pillows are there?

• Seat with vibration a PVC seat from Seven Creations with a silicone dildo that vibrates. You sit on it and set the depth and pace yourself, hands-free.
• Bondage seat a firm faux leather cushion with metal fittings from the Bangers line by Hidden Desire, for when you want to combine restraint with an exciting position.

A plain foam sex wedge for under the hips is not part of this range. If you just want to raise your hips a little, a firm bed pillow with a towel over it also works, although it flattens faster than a real sex pillow. For more support in different positions, have a look at our sex swings. You can also get your bed ready with bed restraints and a sex blanket.

Why does a pillow under the hips make such a difference?

A sex pillow mainly changes the angle of your pelvis. When the receiving partner’s hips are a little higher, a penis, dildo or strap-on glides more easily along the front wall of the vagina, where the G-spot is. Deeper penetration also feels smoother, and the partner on top needs to lean less on knees and arms. That makes a sex pillow lovely for longer sessions, and also when someone has a sensitive back or stiff hips.

Which sex pillow positions work best?

In missionary, place the pillow under the bottom, so the pelvis tilts and the clitoris is easier to reach. If you lie flat on your front, a pillow under your hips lifts your bottom slightly, which makes penetration from behind calmer and deeper. For sex on the edge of the bed, a pillow helps you find the right height, so the standing partner does not have to stoop. Try a firm, flat pillow first and see what feels best for you both. If you make love on the floor, put a blanket under your knees and elbows so you stay comfortable for longer.

How do you use a sex pillow with a dildo?

Use water based lube with the silicone dildo, and place the seat on a firm, flat surface so it cannot slide away. You sit most comfortably with your feet flat on the floor or your knees resting on either side. That way you can easily lift yourself a little and decide how deep the dildo goes. Start without vibration, lower yourself slowly and only switch it on once everything feels good.

With the bondage seat, one of you is restrained and the other is in charge. So agree on a safe word beforehand and keep the fastenings within reach, so you can be freed quickly. Afterwards, clean the dildo with lukewarm water and mild soap, and wipe the PVC or faux leather seat with a damp cloth. Let everything dry before you put it away, ideally in a cupboard or large bag out of sight. If you want a toy that thrusts without you moving, look at our sex machines.

Frequently asked questions about sex pillows