Strapless strap-ons

How do the strapless strap on models differ?

• Without vibration the Strapless Strap-on Silicone 23 cm and the Nymphea Strapless Strapon from ToyJoy are made of silicone and easy to use.
• With vibration these models vibrate, so you both feel it. Examples are the Vibrating Strapless Strap On from Happy Rabbit and the Strapless Strap-On Pulse Vibrator from Xocoon. She.E.O. also makes a vibrating version.
• App-controlled you control the Lapis from Lovense with your phone, or you hand the controls to your partner.
• For pegging the Bend Over Boyfriend from ToyJoy is made for pegging and also comes in a vibrating version. If you’re new to pegging, pegging for beginners explains how to start calmly.

Why does the bulb matter as much as the shaft?

With a strapless strapon, look first at the part the wearer inserts. A bulb that’s too small slips out as you move, while one that’s too big starts to feel full or pressing after a while. Then choose the long end based on what the receiving partner enjoys. The Strapless Strap-on Silicone at 23 cm is on the long side, and you don’t need to use its full length. For pegging, or while you’re still getting used to it, a slimmer and shorter model is often nicer, because it’s easier to steer gently.

How do you use a strapless strap on?

The bulb stays in place because your pelvic floor muscles hold it. Insert it lying down, tense lightly, then stand up to check that it stays put. It’s easier when you know those muscles, and pelvic floor exercises help you find and train them. How to find them is explained in training your pelvic floor muscles. If it feels wobbly at first, tilt your pelvis slightly forward so the shaft lines up with the bulb. Start with slow, rolling movements in a position where the receiving partner is on top. Use plenty of water-based lube, because silicone lube damages silicone. For more support with firm or anal thrusts, combine it with one of the strap on harnesses with a large ring.

Why do so many women love sex without straps?

A strapless strap on is especially popular with women who have sex with women, because the wearer feels every movement from the inside. With a vibrating model, such as the Vibrating Strapless Strap On from Happy Rabbit, you both feel the vibration. Positions where you lie close together work best, for example with the receiving partner on top or both of you on your sides. That way your pelvis does the work, and the bulb doesn’t have to stay in against strong forces. With the Lapis from Lovense, the receiving partner can set the rhythm of the vibration through the app.

How do you clean a strapless strapon?

Clean both ends after every use with lukewarm water and mild soap or a sex toy cleaner, even if only one end was used. With a vibrating model, keep the charging point dry and don’t hold it under the tap unless it’s fully waterproof. Let it dry thoroughly and store it separately, so the silicone doesn’t touch other toys.

Prefer a model with straps? Then browse all our strap ons.

Frequently asked questions about strapless strap ons